I have to be honest, I have no idea what the point is of discretion for those who wear 24/7. For me, the entire goal of this was to become incontinent and live like an incontinent person. I don't think I need to be discreet beyond what the typical incontinent person would do. But am I ashamed if someone sees the waistband? No, these things happen. It's a little bit absurd to want to be untrained yet keep it a total secret. Real life doesn't work like that. Now I'm incon and have a diagnosis, stuck in the medical records forever... uni knows, parents know, friends know, and I couldn't be happier. It doesn't have to be a burden, it's a chronic health issue, that's it, I live life like a normal person, aside from the fact I have to wear 24/7. It doesn't make you an exhibitionist to wear like a normal incontinent person would, it is only exhibitionist if you take it beyond that.
(Was easier for me to be diagnosed than it would be for others, based on the fact I had childhood incontinence, so it looks like I 'slipped back' into that... it doesn't create fears I have multiple sclerosis or things like that, which I think would be wondered about if a 'normal person' arrived at the doctor with bowel incontinence issues.)