>implying you or anyone else can "cure" her
Daily reminder that you cannot "cure" or "fix" people. You can support them as they work to overcome their own issues and give them useful advice, but in the end it is their own battle of the mind. You can't shrink down and fight the angsty neurons in their brain for them.
I'm not one to believe everything a shrink spews out of their mouth, but it's such a common phenomena that I think this article is worth posting. Take it with a grain of salt as you will, but it has a point: Don't go into a relationship with someone with the sole desire to change them. That's how you get battered wives hoping their abusive alcoholic husbands will change; It's how you get henpecked husbands hoping their sociopathic wives will stop being abusive emotionally manipulative nags.